Taking care of your health is very important. Regular visits to your general practitioner as well as to a gynecologist are must if you care about your body and want to stay healthy. Specialists say that women need to see their gynecologist at least once a year since the beginning of their sexual life. Others say that it is important to have a first gynecological exam for women who have not yet started being sexually active but have reached the age of 18. And of course, in case a woman has problems with her reproductive system she needs to see her gynecologist at any age. A gynecological examination is something that many women are afraid of before they actually have it for the first time. Here is a list of the things that are going to happen during your first visit to a gynecologist, including the preparation before it.
Before the Exam
When you decide to make an appointment with your gynecologist, do make sure that your visit will be during the middle of your menstrual cycle. Once the appointment is scheduled avoid having sexual intercourse, vaginal douche or putting anything, like tampons into your vagina two days before it. You are advised to think and write a list of any questions and queries you would like to ask your doctor. In addition, think of your choices when birth control method is concerned.
On the day of your scheduled exam you do not need to do anything special. You should shower normally with soap and water, avoiding talc or cream since it could affect test results. It is best for you to wear comfortable clothes in order to feel calm when you have to get undressed.
On the Day of the Exam
Before your examination a nurse may ask for urine and blood samples for the test. The nurse will also weigh and measure you and your blood pressure. Afterwards you will talk to your doctor, who will ask various questions about your previous medical history, your family history and past surgeries. It is also important for you to remember when your first period was and what it is like - whether it is regular, how long it lasts etc. It is important to tell your doctor whether you are sexually active or not. Feel free to ask any questions you want.
Your gynecologist will then ask you to undress and leave you alone in a room for a while. You will also be given a hospital gown or drape sheet, which will help you feel more comfortable and relaxed. After you are ready, the doctor will ask you to sit on the examining table putting your feet in the foot rests.
Physical and External Genitalia Exams
Physical examination includes palpation of the breasts to check for any abnormalities, pelvic, abdominal and manual exams. The gynecologist will examine your external genitalia with latex gloves on. Your vulva will be examined for any pathologic symptoms. Physical examination should not be painful but if it is, you should tell your doctor straight away, since this could be a sign of certain pathology.
The speculum exam follows the physical examination. The gynecologist will insert a lubricated speculum into the vagina to check for any abnormalities like cysts, erosions, irritations and others. Before the speculum is inserted the doctor will first slip a finger into your vagina to find the cervix and detect the vaginal angle.
During this exam the Pap smear is taken. This means that a few cells of your cervix will be swiped with a brush or spatula. This is not painful but may cause some spotting for the patient afterwards, which should not be painful either. The doctor will then collect samples for sexually transmitted diseases tests. Only then the speculum will be gently removed from a woman’s vagina and the examination will be over.
During this part of gynecological examination the gynecologist will lubricate her/his two (second and third) fingers and put them into the vagina. The doctor will put another hand on the abdomen in order to palpate the uterus and ovaries and check for any swelling or growths.
Bimanual exam ends the gynecological examination, which normally takes not longer than 5 minutes. You may now remove your legs from the stirrups and get up from the examination table and get dressed.
After the Exam
You may ask any questions about your examination after it is over. The doctor can do some tests in the own laboratory, therefore you will be able to discuss the results of some tests on the same day. Results of the other tests performed may take a few days, and hence you will need to come back once again for them.
In case any treatment is needed the gynecologist will prescribe certain medications. He/she will also recommend you a method of birth control if you need one. Remember to ask any questions that you wish about your test results, choices of birth control, treatment or sexual life. Your gynecologist is there for you to help and give any information you need.
As you can see there is nothing to fear about the gynecological examination. If you still have any concerns about the exam, feel free to ask your friends, your sister or your mother as there is nothing embarrassing about it. And after you have had your first gynecological examination you will practically know that it is nothing extraordinary, uncomfortable but very informative and important for every woman. Remember, that staying healthy is taking care of your body and health.
I go to a male gyno every year and have never had any embarrassment or discomfort. He's a doctor, not a rapist, and is extremely professional. If you would rather die than have a doctor exam apart of your body, I you're being ridiculous and melodramatic. As for the person saying this is no different then checking for virginity - it is different. It can be life or death. This is important stuff, and you're being extremely illogical about it. And unless you've been raped, don't compare yourself to a rape victim.
hatchi7 2011-09-28 04:14:34
yes i do know what its like to be molested and raped without telling my mother till i was 18yrs i was molested from the age of 5 to the age of 13 i was raped multiple times between the ages of 15 to 22yrs old.....if you havent gone through the traumatic experience i dont think you have the right to compare a gyn exam to it.....yes i never trusted men after that until my first daughter was born and i was scared of the doctors exams throughout the pregnancy and while i was giving birth to her.....when i was giving birth to her i almost broke her nose and was slowly strangling her with her umbilical cord if it wasnt for the doctor she could have died so my trust started with the doctor for the fact it was a man that saved my baby, with my 2nd born her heart rate was way too high while i was in labor and again a male doctor helped me bring her heart rate down to normal, with my 3rd born daughter her heart rate dropped so much they feared i would give birth to her as a dead child so he helped me give birth to her fast and had a team waiting just in case she died but we got her out and her heart rate went to back to normal with my 4th there was nothing wrong with her labor and delivery so i started to trust men more because of these male doctors saving my children and i realized with my first daughter that not all men are like the men that raped and molested me as i was growing up and i know the difference between a regular physical exam for a female and rape
hatchi7 2011-09-28 03:29:17
wow i find this crazy....im a 25 year old woman with 4 young daughters.....im going to be going for my fist gyn exam soon so i thought i would look up what they do on the first day....i found the information to be very good to read and i do understand it.....i cant go to my family and ask them about it because im the first one to have one done.....as i read about it cause i was very scared at first but as i read it i learned that a gynecologist is basically like your family doctor the only difference is a gynecologist only specialize in woman and their certain medical needs.....i also thought i would look at what other woman had to say about it and all i can see is everything negative.....i was referred to a gynecologist because my family doctor had found a growth in my ovary which has made me scared and unsure about everything.....my doctor doesnt know what the growth is so he sending me to the gynecologist cause they specialize in these kinds of things....i have been a rape victim before in my teen years and well i got to say there is a fine line between rape and a regular check up for a woman....the gynecologist looks for things that can harm us in these exams such as cancer in the ovaries, uterus and breasts these are exams that even a medical doctor can do as well and i dont recall a woman saying that a doctor has raped her doing a routine check up like this.....sorry to say but rape is when a person forcefully penetrates you and beats you and other stuff that you say no to.....a gynecologist tells you about these things and checks to make sure you are healthy and have nothing wrong with you inside and out, you have a choice to take these exams if it was raped you dont have any choice at all about anything but just to pray that the person doesnt kill you.....so grow up and grab a brain already calling out rape aint something you can throw around because your scared of an exam just to scare people out of it there are woman out there that had that kind of traumatic experience before.....if you have been raped before try to put it behind you so you can live on with your life....i have put that experience behind me so i can move on with my life with my children and im going to go to these exams so i can live a long life with my children if its not too much of a bad out come with the exam so i can watch my children grow and go to college and see my first grandchildren being born and so forth in the future cause im not going to wait till im on my death bed with ovary cancer wishing i had gone before hand so i can had at least gotten the proper treatment i needed before it got worse and dont be trying to say nothing about rape when either you dont know how it feels or you comparing it to the experience....give them a break and lay off the childish words because of how uncomfortable you feel if you felt this way than dont get it done
maxim 2011-08-14 20:31:49
What you feel is completely justified, not a phobia at all, a stranger invading your most intimate part is disturbing for me and I'm a man. Wearing a white robe and spending an additional year at university doesn't make a medical practioner any different that a normal guy. What's the difference between it and rape? Physically rape is just filling a hole, but isn't it all about the psychological trauma that is experienced, how about when you are convinced to submit for it YOURSELF and then being fooled that it is normal, it's even worse IMO. Your body is all yours, don't let anyone fool you, nobody has a right to invade it , and being a doctor doesn't grant him that right. It's the medical system that is messed up. I don't want this happening to my wife or any woman.
matthew68687693 2010-12-10 01:46:26
What a traditional rapist basically says is, "If you don't let me put my d*** inside you, I'm going to kill you."
What a gynecologist basically says is, "If you don't let me put my fingers inside you, you're going to get sick and die."
Notice the similarity. There is no consent in either case, because fear is the motivation. Gynecologists are basically criminals that the system hasn't caught up with yet.
matthew68687693 2010-12-02 11:22:35
A pelvic exam is rape.
"Discomfort/pain, shame/embarrassment, and/or a feeling of being violated, as a result of penetration of the sexual organs by a person in whom a woman has no sexual interest, achieved through coercion, fear, and/or intimidation."
My wife recently had an appointment with a new doctor to renew her birth control pill prescription. She is 30 has been on the same pill for the last 10 years, all that usually happens is her blood pressure is checked and she is given a 6 month supply.
We have recently moved here and have no established relationship with any doctors or health care providers; I accompanied her to this appointment at her request as she did not know the doctor and my company medical insurance would be paying any costs.
At the appointment in his consulting room he confirmed that he could renew my wife’s birth control prescription but that first he needed to conduct a physical examination, he then asked me to leave the room. I started to get up to leave but my wife said she was happy to have an examination but wished me to stay, the doctor said that this was not “allowed”.
My wife insisted that I stay, she did not know the doctor, who was an older man and my staying would she said help her relax and make the examination, if it was really necessary, as stress free as possible.
Let me say at this point that I was happy to stay or go and wait outside as she wished I had no preference other than her wishes.
The doctor however refused to allow me to stay, my wife argued a little with him and repeatedly said that surly it was her choice if she wished to have her husband present for the examination, we both left with out her having the examination or getting the prescription for her Birth control pills.
My wife went straight to the reception/administrator to complain about the way she had been treated, to our amazement instead of getting an apology we were told that is entirely up to the doctor who he “ allows” to be present during any examination.
The administrator then did offer to arrange another appointment the following week for my wife with a female doctor, my wife agreed but said that she still whished me to be present for any examination if one was required ( I think by this stage it had become a pint of principle) to our surprise my wife was told again that this would be completely up to the doctor but the administrator though that is would not be allowed and was against the “rules”..
At this point we left, angry, frustrated and upset, my wife had still not been able to refill her birth control pill prescription which had been the whole point of the visit in the first place.
My wife has subsequently contacted a couple of other doctors, explained that she wants top refill her Birth control prescription to protect against an unwanted pregnancy, they both said she has to come in for a consultation, which she is happy to do but both have refused to confirm to her that she will be “allowed” to have her husband present if any examination is required. Apparently is depends on the “policy” of Dr X or the “Rules” of Dr Y.
We have had very little dealing with the medical profession as we are both fit, health and active in our early 30’s but I have to admit my wife’s recent experience has been frightening.
Surely she is correct that it is HER choice who she does or does not want to have present for any physical or personal examination. It is not up to what the Dr “allows” or not or what his “ policy” is ?
If my wife or any patient wants to have their husband present during an examination, surely that is the patients right and doctors should respect that, not completely ignore it.?
As I said I have no strong person view with this other than wanting to respect the wishes and preference of my wife, I would be happy to accompany her or not, to wait inside or out as she wishes but surely it is her right to make that decision.
I would welcome any medical / legal comments or opinions on this.
4kidsndone 2010-03-09 01:40:08
Yall need to stop. Yall will think pelvic exam when yall die from it. That shit dont make no damn since. Everybody's blog that i have read on here is by grown ass women. Yall need to talk to some rape victims first to see what rape is really like before you go on talking like yall do, and the reason hey dont have topics that help this on the net is because its stupid, yall r stupid. grow up and do what u need to do. Hell if u feel that violated and if its that painful take a damn ibprofen before you go. A man grow the fuck up.
junkee 2010-02-22 02:58:22
Reading replies here, I think, that there should have been done some kind of psychological research, about this subject.
As I am a male, I'm not sure, how much rights I have to speak about this, but here it goes.
"I'm just appalled at the number of women who think that having a gyn exam is worse than cancer and equate it with rape - you make me ill with your ignorance."
I aplolgise for quoting, but I will use it, as a starting point. Of course, from "logical" standpoint, gyno exams can't be compared to cancer or rape. But obviously it is very unpleasant, even traumatizing experience for some woman, and ignoring that - it's just plain wrong. I would like to think, that we live in an educated society, but when I read about this topic and absorb information, from where I live (Eastern Europe), I feel like I'm in a medieval age. Sure, these exams may be important, but it's just plain sad, how superficially people threat this subject from psychological viewpoint.
We are unique personalities. Some woman will just swallow it, and move on. But some people are extremely shy about their body, especially private areas. For some woman it can be very traumatic experience. Is there any kind of scientific studies about this subject? So far I feel that, in general public, this is threated in the same medical category, as when you are taking small children for a vaccination: "He's crying? Big deal, he'll get over it."
It reminds me roughly the same thing, as virginity test, that Amnesty International lists as a form of violence against woman. Why? Let's take it from this point of view - for an african girl, undergoing virginity test, it's the same possibly traumatic experience, as for US/europian girl having gyno exam, because both are convinced, that their body privacy is invaded for a good reason. In first case it's the status gain in local society from successfuly passed test, in second it's health. But giving the relatively low clinical value (especially if exam is done just because it "has to be done"), it could actually be more harmful, considering excessive stress, traumatic experience, and sometimes adding possibly incompetent doctor's factor (especially in poor countries).
The most important idea about this subject - gyno exam should never be mandatory, unless woman itself choose it so. Otherwise, I believe it's a crime against person's body privacy.
And mandatory gyno exam for a virgin, sometimes even without giving enough information about subject before that???
"Though definitions vary, rape is defined in most jurisdictions as sexual intercourse, or other forms of sexual penetration, by one person ("the accused" or "the perpetrator") with or against another person ("the victim") without the consent of the victim." - Wikipedia.
It's a thin line here, and I think, that subject should be investigated by professional psychologists. What should be considered "enough information"? What is consent in this case? Can "other forms" be related to the invasive nature of these exams?
For some of the posts below, talking about unpleasant experience, the only thing, that I can suggest is - search for help. Don't let it ruin your life this way, it's too short already. ------------ On conclusion, I would like to write something encouraging though. Digging up through www for this subject (I am Research Junkee), I can say, that the most important thing is:
If you're a random girl, in line for exam, and stumbled across this somewhat scary article and these even more scary comments, don't get discouraged.
Search, read, post - get as much info, as needed, to make you feel comfortable about this topic. Talk to someone, if possible. Mom, family doctor, your boyfriend - anyone you trust. It's only in human nature, to fear the Unknown most.
Some doctors are really nice persons, who highly values ethics, and they are solely devoted to helping people. Make sure, that when you step into doctor's office, it's your Free Will. It may still be scary and unpleasant, but the key words are Information and Free Will. If you fear it, but you know everything about it, and you still feel, that it's the right thing to do, then (and only then) it is the right thing to do.
Apologies for English, is not my native language.
SelfLoathing 2008-11-18 03:01:56
Yes I realize it's over a year ago now but, to the Guest criticising the rest of us for feeling the way we do...
How do you whether or not the others have or have not been raped in their past? And how do you feel you have a right to call us ignorant and stupid, what about you? Maybe it's okay for you, maybe you can deal with it and it doesn't mean anything to you. Well good for you then. But not everyone thinks or feels exactly the way you do. You put yourself up on this pedestal that you don't deserve, by any means, and try to act like you're so much higher and more intelligent than the rest of us. Get over yourself.
On a side note: I for one as a matter of fact, HAVE been raped and more than once or twice in my lifetime. Regardless whether it's a male or female, it doesn't matter. It definitely brings back old memories that I'd rather just forget. Having an extra nurse in the room "for support/comfort" only makes it worse, I feel like they may as well have a camera in their hands... I refuse to go anymore. No amount of therapy or medication can ever make it feel okay. And yes, I agree, I'd rather die than visit a gynecologist ever again. That does NOT make me any less valuable as a human being than you.
Jinx 2008-09-28 02:00:27
If you are a woman who has been violated by ob-gyn exams, you are not alone. Join the Yahoo group, Women Against Stirrups:
We discuss alternatives to ob-gyn exams and hospital birth, learn about the seedy history behind ob-gyn, and share our experiences with like-minded women. Stop the violation. Come join the revolution.
Guest 2007-03-27 03:27:36
Good lord - with the photo of the "EVIL GYNECOLOGIST" at the top of the article exactly what is this website trying to do scare women to death - LITERALLY?
Ladies - please do not insult yourselves or me with your declarations "GIVE ME DEATH BY CANCER BEFORE EVER A GYN TOUCHES ME" that is just stupid.
If you find yourself avoiding the GYN then you probably are having anxiety about it - otherwise you would be going and don't keep spewing out that "I feel so violated" or "I feel raped" nonsense. Unless you have been violated or raped then you have no freaking clue what that feels like.
I have been raped, I have had uterine cancer and I survived BECAUSE I have had annual GYN exams since I was 16 years old. I'm nearly 50 now and I don't look forward to my GYN exams - I dread them, but I KNOW THEY ARE IMPORTANT and so I do it. I do it because I love my life, I love my husband, I love my children. I know we're all going to die of something but at least I know what it WON'T be - IGNORANCE or STUPIDITY! Ignorance is when you don't know any better. Stupidity is when you do know better but you prefer to act like you don't.
Nobody ever said a Gyn exam would feel good - it's a medical exam! Do you like the tongue depressor when the doctor wants to see your throat? I don't either. Why does the doctor want to know about your sexual activity? So he or she can educate you on proper birth control and safe sex practices and make sure that you are being cared for properly in accordance to your risk factors. If you engage in risky behavior then you are not allowed to complain about the consequences.
I'm just appalled at the number of women who think that having a gyn exam is worse than cancer and equate it with rape - you make me ill with your ignorance.
Guest 2007-03-26 21:11:10
I do not trust anyone male or female to touch me. Until I or someone else find a way to test, I will just have to run the risk of cancer. Oh well.
Guest 2007-03-23 01:24:37
oh I just read the new stories....it is terrible. The medical system is truly fucked up. I agree...I rather died from cancer than feel raped again.... I agree with the woman that is in the nursing school. And I just can imagine how it was for the lady that wants to be a mum. I am 38 and I quit the idea of being a mum, unless I have it at home, at my own risk. My name is Ana, it is a faked one because there are very intimate things I already wrote about me in this chat. I was the one that wrote on January 26th. I keep on contacting gyn and therapist to see what can be done. I rarely have an answer and they are mostly women. Shame on them!!! I am also trying now to gather stories about women that have felt violated after a gyn. exam. You now know how it is to feel you are not alone....My plan is to create later on an organization...maybe I am naive, but I want to help myself and help others. Maybe a program could be created for us....where we could have treatment for a year or as long as it take, and maybe WE WOMEN can change the rules. Rules mostly based on denigration, violation, etc. Our fear wont' let them abuse us anymore. I have created an email
Maybe you can create also a faked name and email and we can keep in touch and DO something. I live in NY...Please be well be in peace
Guest 2007-03-19 07:33:20
I reallly dont get the suggestion to take medication for anxiety prior to the exam. Im not anymore anxious about the exam than I am going to the dentist or getting a shot. Anxiety is not the issue, its feeling violated afterwards, and feeling disconnected from yourself. Im in nursing school. I understood the importance of preventative medicine. I workout, eat right, dont smoke or drink, etc. But Iwould rather risk cancer than to spend the rest of my life feeling violated.
Guest 2007-03-18 20:07:12
As far as I'm concerned, until there can be a more scientific way of checking women (that is, with no other people involved), I will have to run the risk of cancer. There are many gynecological tools on the market (which look better than a speculum) and yet they are not even considered. This shows most gynecologists' incompetence, because obviously they are not keeping up with new developments in their field. They are among some of the most primitive doctors known. And no, I will never have that exam!
Guest 2007-03-16 13:27:24
Rest assured none of you are alone. I had not had a pelvic exam in three years and was buying my birth control pills online, but I really want to have children with my husband so I went to the doctor after 3 years and saw a nurse practitioner. She was very good. Talked to me like a human being, understood and prescribed xanax for the procedure in the future, though I did ok after that initial one. They called me back 3 weeks later to tell me I had to come back and have a colposcopy for which I did take the xanax. But the nurse practitioner I saw doesn't do the procedure so I had to see one of the MD's. The xanax did little to help and I was asked to take my clothes off before meeting this woman. She did the procedure with someone else in the room (made it worse) and told me I would probably have to come back for LEEP. I don't know if I can have the procedure. I felt so violated. When I expressed my fear she gave me a list of psychiatrists because she doesn't treat PTSD and told me cervical displasia was treatable....frankly at this point I don't give a shit about cancer or displasia, I don;t think i can go back. I don't know how I could survive being pregnant, my husband would probably divorce me over it. I can't have sex or even be touched casually now and after the LEEP I won;t be able to have sex for a month anyway. I really don't know what to do, this is worse than when I was raped because no one seems to understand.
Guest 2007-02-15 04:54:02
Everyone has phobias about something - but when it starts to interfere with your daily life or prevents you from doing something you need to do then it's time to seek pscyhological help in dealing with your phobia.
When it's time for you to make your next appointment tell the appointment nurse that you are having anxiety over your appointment and that you have had difficulty with pelvic exams in the past and you would like to know if they offer anything to help relieve the anxiety. Many dentist offices do provide a dose of a short-acting anti-anxiety drug to their patients - there is no reason why an Ob/Gyn can't or won't. IF they say no, then try a new doctor's office - call all of them in the phone book until you find one that says yes.
A pelvic exam is important and can save your life just as a breast exam, digital rectal exam, and measuring your blood pressure. Don't let your anxiety, phobia or bad past experiences or horror stories of other people scare you into compromising your own health.
Guest 2007-02-12 00:40:23
hi...I am the one that wrote the msg that starts "I am responding to..." I just read the 3 others responses....I am shocked. I am so so sorry and angry that we are alone in all this. You know after I wrote this, I found 9 email addresses and I wrote to gynecologists and rape organizations. Only one nice lady got back to me.!!! I even wrote a woman you have done research on this issue. No answer!!! Yes there is no information on the internet, none!!! I am gonna look in my email for what I got and gonna go back and post it. I also cry still when I think about this. None of my friends have asked me again, how are you, what can be do to help you overcome this issue? Nothing, feel lonely. I finally got a Matrona (lady that helps the gyn) to allow me to do a swap by myself (I use tampax for God´s sake!), and the first thing SHE said was. Oh but do you have sex? Again the same fucking question. I guess, if we are not virgins then we have to allow everything! I am not virgin so "don´t be silly and let everyone get inside of you!!!" is what I should do? Can you believe this? and coming from women!!! Shame on them!!! They belong to a macho type of medical school, and most of the time they are even less sensitive than men are. By reading your answers, I feel I am not so crazy and that I am not so alone. Thank you so much, really....just I feel also deep sadness for I know what your suffering is. Wish I could do something for all of us. What thing is sure, I won´t give up, now I know I should keep going in my search. I am not the only one. God bless you!
Guest 2007-02-10 04:56:36
I get so angry when I read descriptions of the pelvic exams, rectal exams, and PAP tests. They lie! It hurts like a b**ch. I have never seen a DR who was gentle. I have not been to the GYN since my daughter's birth 7 years ago. Negligence/indifference in the delivery room led to a Csection after 14 hours of induced hard labor. As a result, i am now terrified of all GYN exams, sex, and any type of surgery. I probably will die because of it. I sympathize with all of you. I have finally made a PAP appointment this month, and I am not sure I will be able to keep it. I have already told them that I refuse to have pelvic, rectal, or breast exams- just get the swab and get the damn speculum out! I may need some extra anti-anxiety meds if I do go to the appointment. My mother and sister made me do this- they don't know the extent of my fear. I sympathize greatly with all of you.
Guest 2007-02-08 04:00:02
I understand the phobia too. I am 34 years old and was forced to have pap and pelvic exams yearly when i was a military member, and when i was pregnant they hurt me extremely with their damn exams. I, too, feel like this is sexual assault, and the military is guilty of inflicting it on women year after year. I feel for all of you. i have to have a PAP because I have had dysplasia in the past, and it has been about six years since my last PAP, which was abnormal. I am psyching myself up for it, but I will refuse the pelvic, rectal, and breast exams. they can brush mr cervics and send it to the lab- that is it. I don't have to take the molestation any more.
Guest 2007-02-04 10:15:00
I am so glad that someone else feel the way I do. I went for an exam two years ago, and I had depression for months. I got pregnant last year. My daughter is the best thing in my life, but I can't get over what I went through to have here. I was pushed to go to an office where several doctors practice. I could not choose which one I wanted. I had to see a different one each time. So, to make a difficult situation worse, I feel like I was molested over and over by several different people. Now, I am in nursing school, have a little baby, and I feel like I am about to go crazy. I feel intense hate for myselt, and I dont know what to do.
Guest 2007-01-26 03:36:23
I am responding to this woman that have phobia of getting pelvic exams. Me too, and I am over 30, no kids, etc. I got an infection last year and I may have HPV, don´t know, they tried to force me to go. I said, I went once to the doctor, a woman. I already had panic attacks about going. I tried and then I felt raped, nobody care about your emotions. They say, go to counceling to try to convince you. Or even a woman say, but don´t u have sex?! I said yes, but not in a " hello how are you, open my legs, let a stranger put his or her fingers inside of me" and they even pay them!!! I am raped and I have to pay for it!!!. I beat myself up, and wanted to kill me. I was lonely in my bathroom. Nobody care. I asked doctor for full anesthesia, they said no. My dear friend, I am angry too. I may be dying. I chose death over being raped by an stranger. Society, tells you that having sex in not so good somehow. THen they force u to go to a doctor. If u refuse they laugh, you can see in their eyes that u are crazy. Oh well, it is my body and my dignity. That picture u guy posted of the young man with the globe is disgusting!!! You ever post it, stick it in your ass!!!
Guest 2006-11-29 22:28:58
I am 20, almost 21, and have only been to an examination once at the insistence of my partner. It was, quite possibly, the most traumatic experience of my life. I wouldn't even allow the doctor to do a pelvic exam, and I still felt so violated. What I experienced afterwards was similar to rape trauma. I can't believe that more women do not speak up about this. I'm also shocked by how little information there is on the internet about this type of phobia. I was told that when women turn 21 they are supposed to have a pap smear, but I don't think I could survive that level of violation. I get angry and start crying at the thought of it. You aren't alone.
Guest 2006-05-19 09:53:35
I'm 17.5 years old and I'm absolutely terrified. I used to have panic attacks, but haven't gotten them for a couple years, and I'm worried that the future appointment will trigger one. I too feel that it will be like being raped. Whenever I think of those damn stirrup things, I just imagine myself kicking the doctor away really hard. No... like, REALLY hard. I find it just so violating. You're not alone.
Guest 2006-01-23 23:05:23
I have a phobia of getting pelvic exams. I litterally have a panic attack and ruminate over the impending (clinical rape) for weeks leading up to the appointment. Afterwards, I feel so violated it takes me about a month or so to feel back to myself. This entire process consumes nearly three months of my life each year. I tried therapy for years, medication, hypnotherapy, all have failed. I have since given up having them and order my prescription birth control online. Has anyone ever been in my shoes? I feel all alone and angry.
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